Marriage and Relationship Counselling

Building a healthy support system is the key to a successful and long-term relationship.  Due to the nature of policing, along with things like shift work and changing rosters, police couples face unique challenges.  Healthy relationships and marriages can be achieved with the help of counselling to promote open communication, compassion and understanding.  

Quality time: planning things ahead of time can be difficult particularly when on-call and working changing shifts, but scheduling time to catch up is really important.  These catch ups can be as a couple, with your family, friends or for social interest.

  • Set aside time once a week to meet and talk as a couple

  • Try to find small pockets of time to be together to do something fun, special and relaxing together

  • Make time together a priority.


Below are some common signals couples should note:


  1. If either partner begins to continually prioritise their job above the relationship.

  2. Conflict, arguments, or disputes in the marriage are resolved less often and leave one or both spouses emotionally hurt. 

  3. One or both spouses begin to see more negatives than positives in the marriage.  This applies to any marriage, but it is an important thing to note in the law enforcement marriage, because officers may become more cynical the longer they are in the profession.


If you feel any of the above applies, then it might be time to seek professional help.


Relationship counselling is a positive step to resolving conflicts within a relationship.  Counselling can help you:

  • Understand how you currently feel about each other

  • Learn what each of you wants from the relationship

  • Rediscover the initial connection

  • Take action to get the relationship back to a more balanced and harmonious state.


Counsellors do not tell you whether to stay together or separate.  They offer a safe environment for you both to feel heard and understood, and help you navigate through issues.


If you are thinking about speaking to someone for relationship support and advice: